Victoria's Secrets to Life
The Secret to Happiness
The first thing to understand is happiness is generated by you. Nobody and no thing can make you happy. There is a difference between happiness and a change in your mood. Your mood changes all the time and is situational.
How do you make yourself happy? You have to get in touch with the real you. Without really knowing yourself at the deepest level, how can you know what makes you happy? If you have spent your life pleasing others and being less genuine because you fear what others think, then there is some work that needs to be done in the area of self-esteem.
When you become real, everything tends to fall in line because you chose to only do what is in alignment with the real you. When you BE who you are, you DO what makes you happy, and you HAVE what you want in your life.
Another important ingredient to happiness is being in the moment. This is sometimes easier said than done. It takes practice. It’s easy to get lost in the thoughts about the past regrets, past guilt, or wishing things were right now they way they were then. At the same time, anxieties and fears about the future is no way to live either. All you really have and can feel happy about is this moment right now.
Recognize that happiness is a choice you make. It is not an end result. It is part of the process. You don’t achieve happiness because of something. You simply are happy or you don’t. If you haven’t felt happy in awhile, ask yourself, “What am I thinking about?” Be honest.
Accept others realities, even if it isn’t true for you. Recognize that it is their opinion. Having this high level of acceptance will make a huge difference in your level of happiness. No one and nothing else can choose how you feel.
Discipline yourself to be happy. Do something to lift your spirits each day. You have to raise your own vibration.